I had intentions of meeting you here before now, but as I've said before...life happens and I just don't make it some times.
I am sitting back and enjoying a cup of joe out of my favorite mug, from my favorite store, that reminds me of my favorite friend.
There is just something about a lazy summertime morning. Two cups of coffee is a must. I am usually an early riser. My alarm goes off at 4:22am every morning, for my "me time". If you don't take a "me time" I highly encourage it. Mine just happens to be at the crack of dawn with a fabulous group of peeps here. I love them, but I turned off that beep this morning and took advantage of snoozing another two hours. Every now and then my sanity depends on a few more hours of sleep.
Last week, the big girls headed to camp here.... They absolutely LOVE it. Earlier in the year, our girls shared with us that they would like to skip this camp this year and would like us to put the $ aside for our adoption. A couple months later, we had a couple come up to us and tell us that our girls were going to camp this year, and not to worry, that it was taken care of. It was truly a humbling experience. They were so moved by their sacrifice, that they wanted to bless them. And blessed them they did....and us as well.
Our girls LOVE this camp, and after the week there, traded their camp items they had purchased earlier in the week, to receive all sermons on a USB drive so they could listen to them again.....and they did.....right when they got home. As a parent, you understand, that it's moments like these that make your heart sing.
Our girls are moving into a new stage of life. I know I haven't blogged on "parenting" issues in awhile. Mainly because I have been debating on what to share and what not to share. The common teenage drama isn't so common to the ones going through it at the time..... remember that. Don't we all feel like we're the only ones going through something when we are in the midst of a trial. We feel like we're all alone and it's "just me" that feels like this.
I won't lie, I have been terrified through the years, that our girls would grow up to hate me. And I've heard it a million times..... "if they hate you, it's because you are doing something right". REALLY though! I really, would love to use that as a crutch sometimes, but I will honestly say, I would never want a time our children hate us.
For those of you with babies, let me say, child rearing IS the hardest thing I have EVER done. There are times I literally look at Tim after a trying day and say, "what the H*** are we thinking adopting! This is EXHAUSTING!" (just being real folks, so you wouldn't dare ever think I am this saint of a woman that is ready to become the Woman that lives in the Shoe and hasn't had a few night sweats and heart palpitations over thinking about what's to come!) And for the ones with Adult children.... PRAY FOR ME! You know what I'm talking about and you will know how to pray.
And to NOT be misunderstood.....Of course parenting is extremely rewarding, and parenting is also one of the biggest blessings EVVVAAA. I love my girlies big time, I know you know that.
some advise: Rest when you can, pray hard, listen to wisdom, eat well, exercise regularly, seek the Lord always, and surround yourself NOW with people you want your children to be around and who are going to go through life WITH you. And for heaven's sake, make sure you are in a church that is feeding you spiritually, you don't have time to waste. You have a battle to fight and you can't fight it strongly if you're starving! And let it be your prayer that you LOVE THEM WELL. I fail miserably at this so many many times. Of course I would go through anything for them, and love them deeply and to the bottom of my soul, BUT do they know that. Do they FEEL that.
Have you found your child's individually love language???
A few years ago I was so moved at that thought that they receive love so differently. And sure enough, each one does receive it SOOOOO differently, and then to make things more complicated, it's often differently then the way you receive love. How YOU feel loved is not always the way THEY feel loved. When I read that or heard that somewhere, it rocked my world. And it is so very true.
I recently read this article online. It was floating around facebook. I usually don't click on all those links and read them. I never know if it is worth my time or a possible virus on my computer....
I am so glad I read it. It was so encouraging. I will put the link here.....
but will also copy and paste below for all of you who are like me and are "iffy" about clicking links. Trust me, it will be worth your read. The one phrase that sticks out and gives me chills every time I read it is this ... "But it doesn’t matter so much what we mean, it matters what she hears."
I'll close with it, and hopefully will be back soon with something else that I read recently that touch my heart and spoke to my soul.
Have a great week, peeps!
one thing your daughter doesn’t need you to say
May 13, 2013